THE BLACK GIRL'S LIFE

Let’s be honest , self-help and personal development books can feel so overwhelming. One minute you’re inspired by the title, and the next, you’re staring at page 12 like, “Why is this starting to feel like homework?

But here’s the truth:

If you’ve ever struggled to stay consistent with reading self-help books, you’re probably doing it the wrong way.

Because these books?

They’re not novels. They’re not juicy thrillers you can binge in one weekend. They’re not meant to entertain you — they’re meant to transform you. And transformation takes time.

Self-Help Books Are Not Like Other Books

Think of them like a gym for your mind. You don’t go to the gym once, lift everything in sight, and expect instant abs. No, darling. You take your time. You learn form. You build habits. That’s exactly how self-help books should be approached.

So here’s where most people get it wrong:

They try to read a full chapter at once.

They rush through it like it’s a race.

They highlight everything and apply… nothing

But growth doesn’t happen in a hurry.

Growth happens when you slow down, pause, and soak it in.

Here’s the Better Way to Read Self-Help Books

Take it slow — like, really slow. You don’t have to read a whole chapter in one sitting. One page in the morning. One page before bed. That’s enough.

Read with a calm heart, not a rushed mind. Sit with what you’re learning. Reflect. Let it simmer. It’s not about finishing the book , it’s about becoming better after each read.

I Apply as you go.

After a sentence makes you pause, don’t turn the page just yet. Journal about it. Reflect on it. Try it in real life.

Take months if you need to.

Seriously. Some of the most life-changing books I’ve read took me 3–6 months to finish. And they were worth it.

Final Note: It’s Not a Checklist — It’s a Lifestyle

Don’t read to “tick it off.”

Read to change your life.

And that takes time. Give yourself that time. One page, one thought, one shift at a time.

You’re not behind. You’re being intentional. And that’s exactly how you win in this slow, gentle journey of becoming.